Friday, September 21, 2012

My sister, the Queen B, and her infertility journey

My youngest sister, technically only 13 months younger than me but still the youngest, is also undergoing infertility treatments. She also deals with PCOS and she also has the male factor in play. Her difference from me is that she also has a 17 1/2 year old she had when she was 19 by her ex-boyfriend.

The other major difference is that my sister is also a Queen B with a capital B and she's also a Drama Queen. She also treats her daughter like shit. The Queen B has routinely called me over the last few years and tells me the hundreds of reasons I am lucky I do not have kids. As you know this is the last thing women undergoing infertility treatments and have no children want to hear.

So I've asked the Queen B why in the world she would want to have another child. She says that the our Mom "ruined" her daughter and that the next one will be different. My sister did no wrong. Keep in mind that whenever I was around my sister when my niece was young my sister would ignore my niece while she watched TV or played around on the computer while she had either me or our mom take care of her. The Queen B only took care of her daughter when she felt like it and god fobird if my niece wasn't in the mood at that time. You always had to play along with the Queen B's wishes and demands. Otherwise the Queen B would stomp off in tears how you were ungrateful.

This is a woman who has told her daughter that she must attend  a good university so that she can snare a good husband so that my niece can stay home and not work. She has put my niece down time and time again and almost ruined her self-confidence.

I offered to take my niece during her spring break this past spring to give them both a break. My sister agreed and said that she would drive to the half way point where I could pick her up. Then the Queen B CHARGED my niece gas money and food money for the way up and back. Who charges their 16 year old daughter gas money to take her to her aunt especially when their daughter is still looking for her first job? So before my niece even found a job she had a several hundred dollar debt to my sister for her trip up to see me, her car (that her grandparents had given her), her car insurance and her cell phone.

So my sister telling me that she is trying for another child chills me to the bone. She had her iui this past Monday. The thought of her getting pregnant with a child that she will not truly appreciate pisses me off.

Saturday, September 1, 2012

Hungry Girl Recipes are a PCOS Women's Best Friend

For those of you with PCOS you know that one of the major battles we face is with our weight. The first thing that was told to me by both of the infertility clinics was to lose weight. The second and current one was more specific. They told me that by losing just 10% of my body weight I could stabilize my menstrual cycle and improve my chances of getting pregnant. At the time I hadn't had a period for over a year. It was actually the longest I had gone without one.

I had tried to lose weight by exercise and diet in the past but I only lost a tiny bit and at times I gained weight. As you know, PCOS can make your metabolism stall and I while I was eating less than everyone around me, eating healthier than them and exercising I was still gaining weight. So for awhile I thought what was the use. So I pigged out on potatoes, pasta and bread. (Why do the things that taste so good have to be so bad for us anyway?)

However a 10% weight loss was something that I thought I could accomplish. So I started doing several different things. I tried several diet recipes but they seemed either bland or so freaking small that I was still hungry afterwards. I tried to exercise and I would lose a pound or two but then gain it right back. Then I found Hungry Girl. You might have heard of her on the Cooking Channel.

This is her:

She has a TV show on both the Cooking Channel and Food Network. She also has written many cookbooks along with a Supermarket Survival Guide. Plus you can see her recipes, tips and ideas on her website at:

No, she's not a dietitian and no she doesn't create recipes for those of us with PCOS. She makes recipes for what she calls "Hungry Chicks." But the amazing thing about these recipes is that they are large volume and she tries to stick to whole grain whenever possible. There are also several recipes that try to reduce or eliminate potatoes in traditional recipes. So that means the many of her recipes are perfect for those of us with PCOS.

Some of my favorite recipes are:

S'mores Pancakes (using whole wheat flour)

Recipe can be found here:
Bake-Tastic Butternut Squash Fries (Substitute for french fries)
Recipe can be found here:
She also has 3 minute breakfast egg mugs that you can cook in your microwave even when you're running late. My favorite recipe for this is her All-American Egg Mug which has meatless or turkey sausage patty, egg substitute, sugar-free pancake syrup and cheese in it. It is so yummy and definitely worth a try.
Just in case you're wondering: I'm not affiliated with Hungry Girl nor do I get compensation in any way or form from her or her company. I just really enjoy her recipes and they've helped me to lose weight and feel full and happy eating them. So I wanted to share this with all of you.